Why does she get to opt out?

and why I stopped explaining myself to people who never built what i’m building—and my health skyrocketed

I have a pattern.
One I’ve been working on for YEARS.
And even though I see it clearly, I still slip into it sometimes.

I explain myself.
Too early.
To people who have no idea what I’m building—or how much it costs me to build it.

I catch myself trying to walk them through it. I catch it in real time. I see myself doing it. And yet I continue on…telling them…
Why I’m doing what I’m doing. The details of how I am doing it.
Why the price point makes sense.
Why the pace matters.
Why I’m not rushing to “prove” anything.

And every time I do it, I walk away feeling like shit.

It feels like betraying my own trust and my own deep knowing.

It’s like I opened something sacred just to be met with some half-hearted comment, or glazed-over response, or casual skepticism that leaves a trace in the air.
Even if it’s subtle. Even if it’s dressed up as “just curious.”
I can feel it.

I am really good at picking that up beyond words or even body language.

My body picks it up and instantly brews it into a stress chemical soup—pure biochemistry.

Standing in your truth REVOLUTIONIZES YOUR HEALTH.

NOT standing in your truth, ruins your health and makes you decline into an old biological age VERY FAST.

This is the connection 99% of people miss.

There is a physiological cost.

Standing in your truth DIRECTLY affects your health.

This isn’t mindset.

THIS IS MITOCHONDRIA.

When I finally started honouring my truth, I noticed my energy come back—my sleep got better, my stress dropped, and I actually felt younger in my own skin.

AND my kids watched me do this in real time MANY times. This is one of the reasons they are so awesome and own their life like most adults can’t.

Both my sons set boundaries like pros and have the most amazing circle of friends.

But I’m done. I have been done a long a time ago. It’s just fine tuning now.
I’m done letting people who haven’t done what I’ve done—or lived what I’ve lived— have that kind of access to the deepest things I’m creating.

Because here’s what I know now:

Most people aren’t confused.
They’re just uncomfortable watching you do something they never let themselves do.

They’re not asking how you’ll make it work.
They’re wondering why you get to do it when they never did.

Why you get to slow down.
Why you get to say no.
Why you get to charge more.
Why you get to opt out of the same grind they stayed loyal to.

Why you get to feel true genuine joy and freedom right now in this beautiful moment even if you aren’t chasing societal accolades and chasing the carrot.

And they won’t say any of that.
But you can feel it in the energy when you talk.
You know the difference between someone who’s genuinely listening—and someone who’s tolerating your vision until it fits into their worldview.

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I used to over explain to feel safe.
To make sure people didn’t think I was flaky or delusional or naive.

But now?

I’d rather protect the thing I’m building than get a nod from someone who’s never held anything like it.

And I don’t mean that in a cynical way. I just mean I finally trust what I’m doing enough to not narrate it while it’s still becoming real.

So now I keep it close.
Not because I’m hiding it.
Because I’m growing it.

And when it’s ready, it’ll be visible.
And whole.
And mine.

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If you’re feeling tired or discouraged—check where your energy’s leaking.

Who are you trying to explain your vision to?
Who are you handing pieces of it to, hoping they’ll finally see what you’re doing?

Let that go.
You don’t need to be seen to stay aligned.
You don’t need to be validated to stay in motion.

Keep going.
Keep building.
And stop letting people who haven’t walked your path weigh in on your rhythm.

They’ll see it when it’s done.
Or they won’t.
Either way—you’re not building it for them. And your dear body will thank you for at least a couple extra years of life.