Insight Hit: The real adult skill

short, real. Moments that catch my attention — and might land when you need them.

What caught my attention:

“The less healthy the personality, the less flexible it is.
Very healthy people have extraordinarily flexible personalities.
The core of mental health is flexibility... adaptability, self-awareness, the ability to engage in novel problem solving and not get stuck in a singular solution.”
— Dr. Ramani Durvasula

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What I see:

A lot of people want to be flexible.
They want to expand.
They want to be open to different solutions.

But they’ve been taught that rigidity is the right way.
That unless they follow one exact path—laid out by someone “smarter” or “more expert”—they’re naive, irresponsible, unserious.
That being flexible means it won’t work.

But real flexibility asks something deeper:
Do you trust yourself enough to try what no one else has tried?
To solve a problem from a place of inner ownership—
Knowing you might be wrong, and choosing to do it anyway?

Rigidity gives you someone to blame.
Flexibility demands you hold the outcome.

And that’s why most people won’t go there.
Because if it doesn’t work, you can’t point fingers.
You have to grow.

But that’s the magic.

Every “wrong” step is part of how you find what actually works.
“Mistakes” aren’t detours.
They’re data.
They shape the questions that lead you forward.
They carve the path that wasn’t visible until you took the risk.
The body needs that kind of flexibility—not just to survive, but to adapt, to evolve.

I see this all the time in the health world.
People don’t lack imagination.
They don’t lack intuition.
They just think being an adult means being rigid.

It doesn’t.
It never did.